First, let me cover
“The breakup mindset.”

In the dating world, there is a mindset of looking for things wrong in a person. Right off the bat, it is a negative way to build relationships. Read on to see how I will untangle the mess.

Sidebar V – What if I need help figuring out where to start?

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If I had started a relationship, knowing the difference between an exclusive relationship and dating is essential until a match is found. From women’s health, I can gain some insight.

“Simply put, dating exclusively means both people are only focused on one another. They’re not juggling other people,” Concepcion says.”

Some people believe they can invent steps in between to get out of the answer, such as unnamed boundaries and standards. Instead of simply saying, I’m fishing around or casual dating. To signal that I can also continue to do the same. Alas, I prefer upfront.

I think that is sexy.

From my experience, what I do is when they start talking about the topic and claim they work with one person at a time. I continue to probe. Then I watch closely and see if they prefer an exclusive relationship, then if they go back on it and bring up some general terms like boundaries and standards. I make a mental note of the first red flag.

Secondly, let’s examine a person who breaks a relationship over food.

If the conversation leads to cooking, I will mention that I love to cook. If the person asks about the dishes, I will share the images of my recipes.

Sidebar V2 – False Image

• It is too much work to keep a false image of myself.
• The best practice in finding a true lover is to use what I know.

Moving back to the conversation, I will say the following or try to convey the meaning. 

My favorites include making Kimchi, Beef (organic grass-fed), Salmon (wild-caught), and orange peel ferments. I’m deeply concerned about taking care of my digestion. Of such caliber, I know that a healthy biome is vital for fiber digestion (hence the mention of kimchi and orange peel). More so, I prefer staying away from the regular American diet. Which, in my opinion, is not the healthiest choice.

After conveying the meaning, the partner in crime might not be aware of these topics and react negatively. If the person loves them, then it’s a win. Most of the time, diet is so personal it’s hard to find someone who understands my nature. Forcing the breakup, such as the person below. For example, look at my passion for cooking and see how this person responded to my excitement for what I consider healthy. However, skip past the images and sidebar to see the solution further.

Sidebar V3 – The Environment

• Regarding the environment, I deeply care for it and meditate on eating protein and its effect on the planet. Eventually, if my body allows, I will switch back to plant-based. I am still figuring out how to maintain balance with fiber.

Third, the solution to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Diet comes and goes. I will change over time as my blood and cells change every cycle. 

Life of impermanence. Life is to be open-minded. 

The Lotus

Dating apps create a perfect example of how divided and segregated the world becomes. 

Is that the type of society I want to live in? 

• I am making my stand and trying to be open-minded!
• Why is the Bumble dating site supporting these behaviors and creating separation? 
• Wasn’t the racism stopped a while ago? 
• Why make food boundaries next? 

How can I fight the injustice dating apps are creating? 

• Start a class action lawsuit. 
• Let’s get some new policies to protect me from the abuse.

I set a boundary with Bumble and posted a short review. See the following result.

• Here is the kicker from Bumble 🙂

What should happen next?

• I want Bumble to remove people who promote an environment of exclusion and create invisible barriers. 
• I suppose a class action is an order?
• I am not on the QA team. I shouldn’t be enforcing these rules or reporting people. I’m here to date, not to be a worker, Bee! 
• I hope Bumble will remove people who support negativity, such as food shaming, and see the bigger picture.

Four – A lotus road to success

I prefer to live with a peaceful, non-reactive person who takes a moment to consider the bigger picture in the proper context. That isn’t always possible, but it can be over time. That is the reality I’m seeking—a partner who can come to know me and see that I, too, can be a lotus.

I leave you with some thought provoking questions 😉

1. How can we create a more inclusive society that values and respects differences?

2. What is the role of technology in shaping our relationships and how can we use it to enhance our connections with others?

3. What does it mean to live a meaningful life and how can we find purpose and fulfillment in our daily lives?

4. What are some of the biggest challenges facing our world today and how can we work together to address them?