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Last year, on May 24, 2024 I used Insight Timer and I saw a posting. It simplified the concept between Praying and Meditating. Let me know what your connection to these thoughts bring out in you. 💬
Praying vs. Meditation ❤️🩹
Folks who pray ask for the answer, while those who mediatelisten for the answer.
“Praying is talking to the Universe. Meditation is listening to it.”
I want to improve my meaningful connections with family and close friends. When I speak with others dear to me, I will explore my supportive core values—for example, doing dishes so they can relax or helping fold laundry so my partner can focus on their tasks. Meanwhile, I must be careful not to trigger my codependency. I am not doing so much that I neglect my well-being.
Rediscovering Connection: A Journey Towards Self-Worth and Meaningful Relationships
The question I should ask myself.
🚀 Am I doing the work out of Fear or Joy?
How can I remember ⚡ to think about that question? 🤢
If I want to attend any social event, I can slow down my mind through meditation. For me, it’s all about creating a large enough gap between reacting and socializing with people. If the relationship is meaningful, I will do what is needed to keep my mind at peace.
Another perspective raises questions:
Why must the relationship be meaningful for me to be a joy?
Why can’t I find happiness and give my whole positive self away without fear? 😎
Before improving my connection with friends and family, I must find a reason to support the following statement.
I Am Worth it!
Story Time ✨
Many times throughout the day, I’m hit with tasks and thoughts of not being enough for myself. I can try to justify my worth because I exist. All I need is myself. Speaking to a coworker, I learned nobody can redefine my existence or worth. However, somehow, a trauma is locked inside of me. When I was a young lad, I found myself isolating. My father didn’t treat me well when I was younger. Later, I came to know that my dad’s parents were abusive to him.
I regularly overwork, eat sweets, or numb myself with food and movies. What has helped me so far is awareness. I’m trying to forgive my father. Writing about these events may give me a way forward.
I have not reached a connection with myself. However, I know that it exists, and therefore, I exist. I must continue to slow down to become aware. Then, I can further improve my meaningful connection with family and close friends.
Well, that is for rediscovering a connection. Feel free to leave your thoughts below if any words resonate with you. 😊
My authenticity or uniqueness is in who I Am. All I need is myself. Then, I can find a balance in my interests and express how the other party crossed my boundaries. A coworker, Cedric, told me the meaning of “I,” and that nothing else can redefine my existence or worth.
Embracing Uniqueness: Finding Balance and Celebrating the Journey
Similarly, I want to be mine; nobody else can have me. Sometimes, I create the art. No three hands are ever alike. I desire to focus my creative flow on the 12 favorite problems. As I told myself, I could stand out by focusing on what was vital to me.
In CoDA, Promise Five speaks about recognizing and embracing the importance of uniqueness.
“I know a new love and acceptance of myself and others. I feel genuinely lovable, loving, and loved.”
Celebrate the Joy in the Journey: Recover with Color! A recommendation from the CoDA group. I haven’t tried it myself. However, I run an art Meetup and occasionally draw with them.
Story Time: Denial when I see a person racing behind me ✨
Following that great energy, I can come to know Promise Six and recognize others as equal to myself. Only after accepting myself can I do what is needed to make my energy vibe attractive, whether it’s a drawing artist date or a 23-minute walk near the Canal. Many times during the month, I find myself meditating in the evening or morning when I’m working from home. I am responsible for feeding my energy and finding the balance to keep me going. Otherwise, I will choose fear and denial patterns.
Some time ago, I saw a person racing behind me. I tried to go faster and felt a feeling of strength. I wanted to control the situation; I didn’t want them to beat me. In the past, it happened to me when people behind me were racing. I remember when I had a cyclist going fast on the boardwalk racing behind me. I decided to try to keep up by running like a crazy person, only to learn that I would fail.
Later, I learned that I was experiencing a trigger of not being good enough and stressing over my situation. I have difficulty identifying my feelings. In CoDA, that is the denial pattern. Of course, I can argue that it could be a control issue here, but I’m not sure which. I was running to get fit and somehow have clarity when all I needed was to stop and slow down.
The end is the beginning; it’s great to have you here. Feel free to leave any thoughts or realizations. Peace be with you. 💖
Occasionally, I come across gems in my favorite problem area. [[How can I meditate before acting]]. In particular, I would like to explore how I can [[Schedule time to mediate to keep the balance]].
Balancing Act Navigating Meditation and Distractions in Daily Life
To find balance, I must create a schedule to help me slow down and reflect on my thoughts. My goal is to meditate in the morning and evening. Similarly, the [[45-minute Meditation is required to reach my mind peacefully]]. I can mitigate the negative thoughts that affect me. I can meditate to slow them down for the evening to feel better for a moment. For example, when I eat mindfully, it takes the mind 20 minutes to register that I’m full or done eating. Likewise, it takes the mind 20 minutes to calm down to receive the wisdom.
Sometimes, patience comes in many forms. [[To wake up the whole body, I need to feel pain across the body]]. Ignoring the pain and allowing myself to listen and continue to note will give me wisdom. The practice will allow me to see what is in my mind. Then, I can answer more and be more attentive to the information around me.
Story Time: Pokémon Go ✨
However, I will be lost if I play games, work past 10:30 p.m., or am distracted. Of such caliber, [[My morning routine got interrupted because I saw a notification for Pokémon Go]]. My phone sent me a promo code for Pokémon Go. I felt inspired and curious to see what the notification would reward me. Later on, I reflected on the event and had many thoughts. I spent too much time on the app. I can’t have it installed. Too addictive. My morning routine got interrupted because I saw a notification for Pokémon Go; I decided to give it another go. I spent 2 hours on it and finally decided to delete it cos it was too much work. I went on YouTube and found a video on deciding which Pokémon to keep; the YouTuber, Poke Daxi, suggested using a search query for PVP. I’m sharing it cos I found it helpful in sorting through junk Pokémon.
0-1attack&3-4defense&3-4hp
Also, he suggested another search query for raid ranks.
`4attack&3*`
More Excitement 🚀
Meanwhile, I’m excited about using the star ⭐ in the game! It will be so much fun preparing for labeling and transferring my Pokémon. I can’t wait to free up space and organize my Pokémon collection!
In his video, he recommended going to a rank checker to decide which Pokémon are worth keeping. However, after 2 hours, I decided to give up because there was lots of competition, and I preferred to spend my time growing spiritually.
What now? 💖
Ultimately, I learned that I need to use my time wisely. In the future, I figured I would share my experience in writing so that, hopefully, others don’t fall into the endless trap of rewards.
While working on the 40 questions with a CoDA study group, I came up with an exciting suggestion. The idea is to create a “Self-Care Kit,” then insert loving messages and learn to love myself unconditionally. Then I thought, how do I learn to love myself unconditionally over time? I created a PDF for myself to help me move towards that goal. The PDF comes packed with prompts to align with CoDA recovery.
If you’re interested in purchasing the tool for yourself, you can buy it for $2 to find success in learning to love yourself unconditionally. Feel free to scroll to the bottom to purchase. I encourage you to share it with your loved ones so everybody can find the love. If you find the love, please let me know how the tool helped you improve.
6 powerful affirmations Loving Messages and Self-Care
Message come with elaboration to get you started on recovery.
I keep my schedule open, so I have balance in my life.
I Am ~ Certify my existence ~ I Exist, I belong.
I Am Worth it ~ How many times throughout the day I’m hit with tasks and thoughts of not being enough for myself-love?
I justify my Worth Because I Exist.
Perhaps I Can Slow Down
I have difficult conversations with my friends, and while I am chill.
Focus on my blessings when the balance is at risk
Keep a close eye on when I’m lonely and turn victim on my subway commute.
I’m lost when I notice my attention moving away from me to objects, places, or people.
Similar to the idea that meditation can help calm the mind.
I can move my body to feel better when I focus on blessings. The body does its best to maintain balance. All I need to do is tune into its song.
I need sleep so I can think through my interactions.
Below is a Codependent Pattern Template. To use the template, associate it with the codependent person with a pattern. You can use the CoDA step 4 inventory to help you fill it out.
“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”
As you fill out your Codependent Patterns, I included prompts to help you write your ideas.
During a CoDA meeting, somebody mentioned a quote to the group. [[Like Hugging a Red Balloon Experience life and let go]]. I was still waiting for an answer when I asked the group about its origins. However, my gut feeling told me it has roots in experiencing life inside of overthinking.
💖 Become Mindful Recognizing Cognitive Distortions and Finding Balance in Life
The red balloon is similar to using the healing code. The author, Alexander Lloyd, asks the listeners a vital question. What would I do with the remaining minutes if I had a short life?
I asked, “Why am I afraid of experiencing life?”
Right off the bat, A memory of a friend popped into my mind. I don’t have to experience everything, but it played out through the mind. However, I need to keep my thoughts balanced cos I can overthink.
For example, skiing is a frill-like kissing experience.
I like to try many things, such as fresh mountain air, peacefulness, views, and travel while staying in a cabin. More so, skiing is a technique, an exciting challenge with the combinations of many benefits. Meanwhile, following my interests and experiencing life can either bring suffering or overthinking to its knees. When suffering is processed, I can focus on happiness.
Moreover, the experience can lead to the desire to prevent holding on to anything. I can continue to have these thoughts in my mind, but it would be great if I stumbled upon something exciting. Something so great that it will push me to continue to seek instead of think. One way I can seek this freedom is through peaceful meditation. I am going to my inner being and seeing what my mind has been up to.
🚀 Recognizing Distortions In My Thinking
Returning to [[Recognizing Distortions In My Thinking]], continuing to overthink my experiences can lead to suffering. While working with my therapist, she shared a unique chart that has given me the ability to catch and question my experience. The chart has five columns: emotions, situation, thoughts, re-framing, and conclusion. It’s vital to question self-worth here. Knowing that [[I Am Worth it]] and justifying my worth [[Because I Exist]]. My day is at the max, and thoughts push me to think I am insufficient. Therefore, I need to keep an eye on the ultimate balance, a slice between what is real and present and what is a thought. Spending too much time with thoughts will take me away from the present moment and create much suffering in my system.
Below, I’m sharing my cognitive distortions tool with you. Feel free to use it any way you wish. If you have any questions, feel free to ask them in the comments below. If you enjoyed the passage above, let me know via like comment, or both. 😊
Emotions
Situation
Thoughts
Reframe The Thoughts
Conclusion
Rate Intensity 2,3,4,6
Where were you? What was going on?
What went through your mind? Proof for and against?
Identify the distortion for each thought.
Have any of your preconceptions may have influenced thoughts
Black holes absorb energy and potentially give rise to travel in space. However, they compete with the sun because they are wise and radiant in energy. In fact, desire is bright like the sun. If I were to look outward to a place, a person, or a thing, my desire would be just. The goal of magnets is that I can find my power with gratitude and blessing. The fact is that if I focus on my blessings when balance is at risk, I can reduce suffering.
The Interconnected Universe: Exploring Energy, Space, and the Human Body
Different forms of mass-energy can improve travel. The black hole is the Big Bang. The sun sustains it, and a black hole is destroyed to rebuild. War and peace, death and rebirth, are similar. The law of nature closely follows the smaller scale. It is my most extraordinary belief and teacher.
Moreover, zooming into the creation of brains and the connections between systems in space is similar.
The plasma travels through the arteries, which I can use as a model. Muscles inside the arteries make it move. Those same arteries are a map to build a future. The muscles exist. I have to use them. They are the channels. In reference to the show Powered by Space on Amazon, the plasma is essentially an energy source for the human body.
In a similar vein, the infinite energy on Earth is in balance. It’s the poles of the planet that attract all the plasma, so I can have endless energy on the Earth. The Earth has a metal mass (core) to attract the charged particles, creating a magnetic field. In a way, it’s similar to the plasma in my arteries. If only a way existed to keep reactors to store plasma to aid in takeoff.
Anyway, I shine my notes in the darkness, creating energy.
Welcome to Meaningful Connection, where I share October resonating ideas, thoughts, and realizations for those who want to grow mindfully in 7 minutes. I will try to answer the following questions: let me know how I do. Meanwhile, see if you can find the answer.
✨Thought-provoking questions
How can one differentiate between healthy ambition and greed while expanding?
What are some effective strategies for balancing personal growth with relationships?
In what ways can mindfulness practices contribute to finding balance while expanding?
How can one identify and overcome limiting beliefs that hinder growth and expansion?
What role does self-compassion play in balancing personal growth and self-care?
Grammarly AI
MEANINGFUL CONNECTION
👓 What’s New?
Thinking about my recent activity, I wrote about CoDA Promise Nine because I’m all about self-care. Meanwhile, I discovered a few new ways to stay balanced while awake. The thought led me to keep an eye on how I want to live my life without telling others how they should live theirs. Ultimately, I’m glad to be back for this month’s meaningful connections as I leave you with a few final wishes to prep for the new month. With that, let’s dive into the resonance!
🔔 What is Resonating?
During October, I had many inputs revolving around studying the 12 CoDA promises. Each set of promises has questions assigned to them. When I go through each, I love to reword the questions to get a better connection with my life and how CoDA relates to it. Of the 12, promise Nine caught my attention because I enjoyed the answers I gave in my notes. For reference, here is promise nine.
“Acknowledge that I am a unique and precious creation.”
I want to focus my life on the 📝 Vye 12 Favorite Problems, for example, 🗺 How can I find balance while wanting to expand or 🗺 How can I meditate before acting? I use these questions to gather ideas to lead my life.
How do I treat myself in a way that is paved with loving-kindness?
I meditate in the morning and evening to preview my thoughts. Then, I can ask what is heavy on my soul, which begs me to show self-love. When my energy goes outward, I can catch myself looking at people, places, and objects. Then, I can trigger a new path called manifestation. After that, I try to recall my gratitude and blessings. If I start believing in stinking-thinking/monkey brain and catch myself, smile at the thought, and find a better way forward. It’s like a game, a treasure hunt. When I feel better, I can move to my body because 📝 The body does its best to maintain balance. In the end, I need to tune in.
Why do I believe I was created?
Each time a thought enters my mind, I remember the following question. 🗺 How can I find balance while having a desire to expand? For me, creation is 📝 When my energy goes outward. My 📝 Confidence is flowing, and then I know I exist. I need to be careful and start 📝 Noticing when I’m addicted to overthinking. Sometimes, the thinking is fun, but it can be draining. Therefore, I need to be aware of 📝 The balance of consideration. Meanwhile, 📝 Slowing Down will get me to the Wisdom.
🌻 What’s Growing?
When October rolled over, I had several new experiences that added to my 12 favorite problems. To start, 📝 Like Hugging a Red Balloon, Experience life and let go. I don’t want to hold on to anything in the Fleeting Notes.
Instead, check it against my 📝 Vye 12 Favorite Problems and find a way to Stumble Upon the Idea as an Atomic Note. The idea led me to consider 📝 ZettelKasten’s Depth is the Compass Thinking. In other words, I was making connections between ideas. For example, what is similar to the concept? Another, where can the thought lead to? Finally, that month made me consider 📝 Everything I do tests me to be awake. Knowing that 📝 When the suffering is processed, I can focus on happiness. Happiness is the test of life. Living is a test of being awake.
🥑 Mental Nourishment
Throughout October, I started focusing my thoughts on my 12 favorite problems. For example, 💭 Live my life, don’t tell others how to. I wrote the idea because it connected to 🗺 How can I find balance while wanting to expand? Building on the context, I told 👤 Juliana Jul that I would like her to move and live with me in the United States. During this, I felt sad, strong, and concerned. As a result, I came up with two major focus points. 📝 Don’t tell people what to do. In other words, I have my own life and don’t need to tell people to be part of it. If I want to 📝 I need to build my friends in my interests. I shouldn’t tell them how to live their lives. Since I have common interests, it will be easier to be around them. Going to in-person events in my area or moving to a location where I can find my tribe is a healthy way to live.
Moreover, 📝 I can improve my comfort with people by taking an Improv class. A coworker suggested Toastmasters—a bucket list event.
What did I learn?
Suffering will come. It will hurt my friend more than me.
My life would be better if another person lived with me. In a plus one form and not a need to form.
I go beyond my boundaries while feeling sadness because the person won’t act as I want.
What is the plan for the future?
The plan for the future when I’m stuck deciding if my thoughts are good in merit, perhaps I can 📝 Focus on my blessings. In any case, I had many views; feel free to comment with your ideas. Otherwise, let’s keep on going to the stream of consciousness.
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🚿 Stream of Consciousness
You may have noticed that I skipped a month in the writing. My goal is to provide meaningful connections. I can reach my goal by reducing the effort of creating content. That led me to 📝 stop treating all thoughts as knowledge instead become a 📝 Smart Collector of information. A better way would be to Stumble Upon the Idea as an Atomic Note. Also, the writing process felt boring and annoying. I hate to force myself to write. Writing my thoughts down with greater meaning allowed me to grow as a person and come to the table thrilled to put together an outline.
Well, that’s it for Oct; feel free to share your ideas or if you have something on your soul. If you want to know how I became an artist, subscribe and follow my blog for more.
