I want to improve my meaningful connections with family and close friends. When I speak with others dear to me, I will explore my supportive core values—for example, doing dishes so they can relax or helping fold laundry so my partner can focus on their tasks. Meanwhile, I must be careful not to trigger my codependency. I am not doing so much that I neglect my well-being.
Rediscovering Connection: A Journey Towards Self-Worth and Meaningful Relationships
The question I should ask myself.
🚀 Am I doing the work out of Fear or Joy?
How can I remember ⚡ to think about that question? 🤢
If I want to attend any social event, I can slow down my mind through meditation. For me, it’s all about creating a large enough gap between reacting and socializing with people. If the relationship is meaningful, I will do what is needed to keep my mind at peace.
Another perspective raises questions:
Why must the relationship be meaningful for me to be a joy?
Why can’t I find happiness and give my whole positive self away without fear? 😎
Before improving my connection with friends and family, I must find a reason to support the following statement.
I Am Worth it!
Story Time ✨
Many times throughout the day, I’m hit with tasks and thoughts of not being enough for myself. I can try to justify my worth because I exist. All I need is myself. Speaking to a coworker, I learned nobody can redefine my existence or worth. However, somehow, a trauma is locked inside of me. When I was a young lad, I found myself isolating. My father didn’t treat me well when I was younger. Later, I came to know that my dad’s parents were abusive to him.
I regularly overwork, eat sweets, or numb myself with food and movies. What has helped me so far is awareness. I’m trying to forgive my father. Writing about these events may give me a way forward.
I have not reached a connection with myself. However, I know that it exists, and therefore, I exist. I must continue to slow down to become aware. Then, I can further improve my meaningful connection with family and close friends.
Well, that is for rediscovering a connection. Feel free to leave your thoughts below if any words resonate with you. 😊
In the dating world, there is a mindset of looking for things wrong in a person. Right off the bat, it is a negative way to build relationships. Read on to see how I will untangle the mess.
Sidebar V – What if I need help figuring out where to start?
If I had started a relationship, knowing the difference between an exclusive relationship and dating is essential until a match is found. From women’s health, I can gain some insight.
Some people believe they can invent steps in between to get out of the answer, such as unnamed boundaries and standards. Instead of simply saying, I’m fishing around or casual dating. To signal that I can also continue to do the same. Alas, I prefer upfront.
I think that is sexy.
From my experience, what I do is when they start talking about the topic and claim they work with one person at a time. I continue to probe. Then I watch closely and see if they prefer an exclusive relationship, then if they go back on it and bring up some general terms like boundaries and standards. I make a mental note of the first red flag.
Secondly, let’s examine a person who breaks a relationship over food.
If the conversation leads to cooking, I will mention that I love to cook. If the person asks about the dishes, I will share the images of my recipes.
Sidebar V2 – False Image
It is too much work to keep a false image of myself.
The best practice in finding a true lover is to use what I know.
Moving back to the conversation, I will say the following or try to convey the meaning.
My favorites include making Kimchi, Beef (organic grass-fed), Salmon (wild-caught), and orange peel ferments. I’m deeply concerned about taking care of my digestion. Of such caliber, I know that a healthy biome is vital for fiber digestion (hence the mention of kimchi and orange peel). More so, I prefer staying away from the regular American diet. Which, in my opinion, is not the healthiest choice.
After conveying the meaning, the partner in crime might not be aware of these topics and react negatively. If the person loves them, then it’s a win. Most of the time, diet is so personal it’s hard to find someone who understands my nature. Forcing the breakup, such as the person below. For example, look at my passion for cooking and see how this person responded to my excitement for what I consider healthy. However, skip past the images and sidebar to see the solution further.
Regarding the environment, I deeply care for it and meditate on eating protein and its effect on the planet. Eventually, if my body allows, I will switch back to plant-based. I am still figuring out how to maintain balance with fiber.
Third, the solution to maintaining a healthy relationship.
Diet comes and goes. I will change over time as my blood and cells change every cycle.
Life of impermanence. Life is to be open-minded.
The Lotus
Dating apps create a perfect example of how divided and segregated the world becomes.
Is that the type of society I want to live in?
I am making my stand and trying to be open-minded!
Why is the Bumble dating site supporting these behaviors and creating separation?
Wasn’t the racism stopped a while ago?
Why make food boundaries next?
How can I fight the injustice dating apps are creating?
Start a class action lawsuit.
Let’s get some new policies to protect me from the abuse.
I set a boundary with Bumble and posted a short review. See the following result.
I want Bumble to remove people who promote an environment of exclusion and create invisible barriers.
I suppose a class action is an order?
I am not on the QA team. I shouldn’t be enforcing these rules or reporting people. I’m here to date, not to be a worker, Bee!
I hope Bumble will remove people who support negativity, such as food shaming, and see the bigger picture.
Four – A lotus road to success
I prefer to live with a peaceful, non-reactive person who takes a moment to consider the bigger picture in the proper context. That isn’t always possible, but it can be over time. That is the reality I’m seeking—a partner who can come to know me and see that I, too, can be a lotus.
I leave you with some thought provoking questions;)
1. How can we create a more inclusive society that values and respects differences?
2. What is the role of technology in shaping our relationships and how can we use it to enhance our connections with others?
3. What does it mean to live a meaningful life and how can we find purpose and fulfillment in our daily lives?
4. What are some of the biggest challenges facing our world today and how can we work together to address them?
